The Lies They Told Many Men. I want to share with you what most single men in Nigeria have been told at least once in their lifetime. A mendacious piece of advice many men have been given. A true untruth. It is something about marrying and being responsible. More aptly, it is about marriage having the power and effect of transforming feckless or irresponsible men into gentlemen and home leaders. Folks, this is a big fat lie! For what it's worth, my little experience as a divorce attorney has opened my eyes to the damage marriage can do to many lazy and irresponsible men. In the course of advising many clients on divorce and postnuptial matters, I discovered that many married men today are becoming more entitled, thus irresponsible. Yes, marriage is adding insult to their injury.