Collette Orji - why are you waiting for your boyfriend to propose to you when you can equally propose?
They say think out of the box, I say yes, why not? Then I ask again..where is the box? How can I ever find it anyways when my mind is as free as the wind - going back and forth and only protected by my desire to learn and unlearn, to know and to shield.
So, today, I'm here once again asking or ...Blabbing?
So many women activist worked too hard for girls and women like me to open our mouth and brag about gender equality. I salute all those women activist who worked so hard for the woman to be considered as an equal in humanity.
But this bothers me a lot... why do women still wait for the man to propose to them? why do women, a girlfriend, a female partner in a relationship still waits for her boyfriend, male partner to propose to them?
The excitement us, women have when we are proposed to, says a lot. That was something we have been waiting for, for so long or something we really desire, so why wait since we all now agree that we are equal.
Why don't you walk up to a man and tell him I like you, ask for their numbers too? or is this equality thing - is it such a mirage or is it a working theory? does it work only in some parts? I mean this is not biology so why does a woman, who has been dating a man for over a year and definitely loves the man, and would do what it takes to be his wife, why does she still wait and pray and fast for something that's just before her? why can't she just get the ring and propose to her man?
where are all the female feminist and loud mouths and fair mouths and women who have helped us so far to achieve these goals.
( Hey, no bashing here, I'm all for women ).
I want to see women woe, men. I want to see women propose to their boyfriends, I want to see women sharing wedding bills with the spouses, I want to see women go all the way.
why remain single with your boyfriend for years and be waiting for him to propose? why not propose and if he says no, you guys talk to see why you should still stay or not?
why do women fool themselves a lot? why are you waiting for a man you like so much to woe you when you know he's single and is up for the taking, what are you waiting for?
why do we claim women rights only in things that seem OBVIOUS already? why don't we dare?
I've seen women wait for a man to ask them out on and out and they end up losing that first date.
I've seen women marry other guys because the ones they loved and preferred was delaying to propose? why didn't you propose so you know your stand?
My question is? are we equal only in workplaces, ethics...I am just wondering because I'm allowed to think and as a writer to write and go beyond my personal stories, so I'm asking...how long will you wait for your boyfriend to propose to you before you take the lead?
what is wrong with you proposing to your man?
Is it an abomination? Illegal ? Culturally abominable? Pride? Desperation?
what is it?
If it's an abomination for the woman to propose, why is it not same for the man? how far have we really gone with this journey of female empowerment and the feminist journey of equality of the sexes which by its own definitions is absolutely humane and in order.
why are you waiting for your boyfriend to propose to you when you can equally propose?
why are you waiting for a man to ask you out when you can equally do so?
please, my wonders....humour and lecture me, after all...we can all agree to disagree...Abi no be so?
Collette Orji
#ThanksForBeingHereMyWonders...
So, today, I'm here once again asking or ...Blabbing?
So many women activist worked too hard for girls and women like me to open our mouth and brag about gender equality. I salute all those women activist who worked so hard for the woman to be considered as an equal in humanity.
But this bothers me a lot... why do women still wait for the man to propose to them? why do women, a girlfriend, a female partner in a relationship still waits for her boyfriend, male partner to propose to them?
The excitement us, women have when we are proposed to, says a lot. That was something we have been waiting for, for so long or something we really desire, so why wait since we all now agree that we are equal.
Why don't you walk up to a man and tell him I like you, ask for their numbers too? or is this equality thing - is it such a mirage or is it a working theory? does it work only in some parts? I mean this is not biology so why does a woman, who has been dating a man for over a year and definitely loves the man, and would do what it takes to be his wife, why does she still wait and pray and fast for something that's just before her? why can't she just get the ring and propose to her man?
where are all the female feminist and loud mouths and fair mouths and women who have helped us so far to achieve these goals.
( Hey, no bashing here, I'm all for women ).
I want to see women woe, men. I want to see women propose to their boyfriends, I want to see women sharing wedding bills with the spouses, I want to see women go all the way. why remain single with your boyfriend for years and be waiting for him to propose? why not propose and if he says no, you guys talk to see why you should still stay or not?
why do women fool themselves a lot? why are you waiting for a man you like so much to woe you when you know he's single and is up for the taking, what are you waiting for?
why do we claim women rights only in things that seem OBVIOUS already? why don't we dare?
I've seen women wait for a man to ask them out on and out and they end up losing that first date.
I've seen women marry other guys because the ones they loved and preferred was delaying to propose? why didn't you propose so you know your stand?
My question is? are we equal only in workplaces, ethics...I am just wondering because I'm allowed to think and as a writer to write and go beyond my personal stories, so I'm asking...how long will you wait for your boyfriend to propose to you before you take the lead?
what is wrong with you proposing to your man?
Is it an abomination? Illegal ? Culturally abominable? Pride? Desperation?
what is it?
If it's an abomination for the woman to propose, why is it not same for the man? how far have we really gone with this journey of female empowerment and the feminist journey of equality of the sexes which by its own definitions is absolutely humane and in order.
why are you waiting for your boyfriend to propose to you when you can equally propose?
why are you waiting for a man to ask you out when you can equally do so?
please, my wonders....humour and lecture me, after all...we can all agree to disagree...Abi no be so?
Collette Orji
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